Choosing a life partner is one of the biggest decisions a person can ever make in his or her lifetime, that is the more reason it should be done with care and also for the right reason.
Getting a partner to spend the rest of your life with is a decision that can sometimes be tasking and complicated, however; this decision will become much less complicated when you are aware of what you need from a partner and also clear about who you are as an individual.
Research has shown that most individuals go into the confine of marriage for the wrong reason, thus; making mistakes that might sometimes put them in a disadvantaged position in the marriage.
Regarding this article, we shall be examining some mistakes you should avoid as an individual when choosing a life partner in other not to have a course to regret in the future.
See them below.
1. Settling down because you think you won’t find anyone better.
Choosing a partner shouldn’t be something you do because you think you wouldn’t find a better person. Research has shown that most people who have recently gone through a heartbreak tend to settle down with the first person that liked them because they were afraid they won’t find anyone better.
Know your worth as an individual and be with a person who understands your uniqueness. Spending your whole life with someone is a big decision, hence; don’t be careless about it.
2. Settling down to please family and friends.
Studies have shown that most adults get married simply because they want to please their friends and family members. Others have also conformed to settling with someone they have no mutual connectivity with all in the bid to avoid parental pressure and scorn.
As an individual who is faced with this situation, it becomes important to understand that the aftermath of your marital decision is solely your responsibility as nobody will help you face the consequences, that is the more reason you should marry at your own pace and not out of pressure or to please anyone.
3. Being with someone because of their beauty or handsomeness.
Choosing a life partner on the ground of facial sophistications or body endowment and disregarding the person’s attitude and perception of things is one decision that might amount to future regrets. I am not saying ‘marrying a beautiful lady or handsome man is wrong’, but at least; it shouldn’t be the primary reason behind your marriage intentions.
4. Marrying a person solely for material and financial gains.
Marrying a wealthy partner is good, as a matter of fact; that is the dream of almost everyone today. But the idea of marrying a person specifically for their wealth and not out of love is one practice that might lead to future pains and depression.
Imagine marrying a person just for their wealth and the riches deteriorate in the future; what then becomes your gain and fulfillment?
5. Marrying someone because they are good at lovemaking.
I quite understand that quality intercourse can be exhilarating and intoxicating, but don’t make it the main reason why you want to settle down with a person. They are other things you should consider aside from lovemaking which include your level of compatibility, the person’s attitude and mannerism, personality, genotype and just to mention but a few. Ignoring these conditions and settling down basically for the sexual satisfaction you get from the relationship might lead to future regrets.