A Ghanaian woman called Stacy has caused controversy on social media by saying that a true man should not finish in less than 35 minutes during the first round of intimacy.
People have reacted quickly to her comments, leading to talks about what is expected of men in bed and the actual facts of human sexuality.
Challenging what people thought, Stacy said, “Man, you should keep going for at least 35 minutes in the first round.” It is different from many popular beliefs that men usually can’t last more than 10 minutes during their first sexual meeting.
Many people have divided opinions about Stacy’s brave comments. Some admirers have noticed that she openly addresses sexual stamina and believes men should reach high levels of satisfaction. Many individuals wished that men would pay attention to the advice and work toward making their relationships stronger for their partners.
On the other hand, a number of people thought Stacy’s comments were not based in reality and might end up hurting young people. They pointed out that how long intercourse lasts depends on several things, such as the health of those involved, their mood, stress, and the chemistry between them. Some users pointed out that telling men to perform in a certain time could result in anxiety and fewer feelings of sexual confidence.
Sexual health experts have pointed out that no length can be called normal, since every person is unique. Dr. Ama Boateng explained that a person’s sexual satisfaction isn’t only dependent on their endurance. Important aspects of a healthy sexual relationship are communication, giving and getting consent and emotional intimacy.
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Dr. Boateng pointed out that the media and many cultural myths tend to raise the bar too high for performance, which results in increased stress and unreasonable expectations. According to her, it’s more helpful for partners to enjoy what is comfortable and enjoyable together than to aim for certain set standards.
It was also revealed that there is a lot of stigma against men who do not meet unrealistic expectations of their sexual abilities. It is suggested by experts that discussing sexual topics and educating people can decrease shame and improve people’s sexual health.
There are those who said that the use of “first round” can be misleading since sexual relations can happen differently and often and time doesn’t always reflect better intimacy. For numerous couples, what’s most important is how good and close they are, not how long they’ve been together.
Stacy’s words, which are controversial, have started a wider discussion about what is expected from people in sexual relationships in Ghana. Because of it, men and women are more inclined to reflect on their beliefs and share their thoughts and expectations with their partners.
As the exchange goes on, many people agree that sexual health and relationships are unique to every couple, so what helps one might not help another. A good and fulfilling relationship depends on respect, understanding and mutual care.
